What you really should be proud of when it comes to your children

I don’t think there is anything special about naming something that I am proud of when I think of my children. The mere fact that they are there, fills me with absolute pride. Even if they do nothing at all, I am proud of them. I don’t make that dependent on any actions or results. The love for one’s own children should be omnipresent and independent. If I only loved my children if they did something special, what kind of father would I be?

 

The first time I was really proud.

 

I remember her birth very well. Holding her in my hands for the first time filled me with pride and love. As a space scientist, entrepreneur and leader, I naturally hope that our son and our little daughter will develop into people who will benefit others through their own strength, intelligence and willpower. My inner wish is that they will be always well, are happy and lead a life full of enthusiasm and benefit for themselves and others. 

 

Indeed, my son is already going in a similar direction as I did then. He is enthusiastic about scientific subjects and achieves his successes there. He is well above the class average. 

 

Our little daughter likes to dance and paint. We enable her to go to the dance school and have hired a private teacher who promotes her individual talents.

 

Children should be allowed to develop themselves

 

It’s important to realize who your kids are. To understand what kind of  individuals they are and what talents, needs and desires they have. In this way they can develop themselves and learn that they are important. 

How many people are unhappy because they were never allowed to live the life they had within them? People who had to suppress their talents because of social conventions. People who hid their needs and desires behind their fears because they were taught to do so. 

I believe that bringing up children should not be pulling in a selfish and pre-defined direction that parents or society dictate, but supporting the inner forces, talents and needs of children.

 

I am proud of the inner development of my children. If they have recognized and understand who they are and what they want, then I have done many things right.

 

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