How personal growth develops through role models
Of other people, I appreciate the qualities I would particularly like to develop for myself at certain stages of my life. Therefore, I advise you not to set a model, as young people often do. Hanging the idol on the wall and saying “this is my model” is not enough to integrate the positive qualities you associate with this person into your personality.
Denis Bederov – his biggest role model
Looking back, my grandfather was a huge model for me. He was an excellent leader, he managed very big companies and I always found his ideas being very unique. I’ve always appreciated this resourcefulness and have always wanted to find such solutions in certain situations in life. Because I knew exactly what fascinated me about his person, I was regularly inspired and also reflected on myself. How well do I already have this ability in me? How can I still work to improve? And last, how can I increase my creativity so that I too can find extraordinary solutions?
Of course, my grandfather wasn’t my only model. If you look at him from this point of view and imagine people as a mosaic, sooner or later many people you know in life become models. Even my father is a great model for me, since childhood!
Denis Bederov: how to develop your role models
If there is something about a person that hits you today, ask yourself in the future what qualities you particularly value and what skills you would like to develop. Only then you can take the decisive direction to get closer to your idol.
Beware of illusions!
However, what should not happen to you: never see your model, exaggeratedly, as a “Messiah”. Once you place your idol on a pedestal that is difficult for you or other people to reach, you will not be able to integrate the qualities of that person into your personality and into your life. But even worse than not being able to develop the positive qualities, is to fade the negative qualities of that person.
No one is perfect! Therefore, even your role model, which you are emulating, will have areas where you should not adopt to your habits. Just as the most successful entrepreneurs often neglect their families, even the visionaries rarely remain concrete and the eloquent people are desperate for technology, so you too cannot expect everything from your idol. Don’t fall into illusion here. Find out what exactly fascinates you! How you want to look, and then gradually take a step on this extraordinary road every day. This is the road to success.
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